Friday, September 25, 2015

How I Feel About Friday

Yep, that's it.
Joyful beyond belief.
And well, just a little (or a lotta) bit tired.

I know the blog has been neglected but everything in my draft folder (or brain) doesn't feel right at the moment.  My motivation is at zero and I've been on the fatigue struggle bus all day long.  If we're being honest here, I haven't gotten off of the bus in about two weeks now.

The second week of September was super busy at work with school club meetings, and the following week was even crazier, filled to the brim with events.  I worked several late evenings, and Saturday, so by this past Sunday I was d-o-n-e.  This week was a little calmer, but I am worried the Fall won't get any easier on the schedule (or this worn-out mama-to-be).

I'm definitely looking forward to tomorrow, which I have dubbed "Sleep-in-Saturday," and welcome any of you to join the party, lol.  By next week, I'm thinking I may share another bump-date, because I'll be right at 20 weeks, and maybe have a photo or two that are a little more attractive than the previous ones I shared.

If you're in the mood for offering up prayers, here are a few things on my mind these days:

  • Pope Francis (DUH!) and his visit to the States.
  • My friends Victoria and Seth, their newest addition, Oliver (9/11/15), and big brother Carter (2.5).
  • Amy and her little family, awaiting Baby #3 any day now (speedy, painless delivery, and seamless transition for all!).  
  • An unspoken request for my little family...let God's Will be done, and our peace to accept it. 

I tried to dream up 7 things for "quick takes," but my brain couldn't even manage to put that together...so we'll stop there.  Maybe I'll find some motivation to do a little more writing this weekend.

TGIF!

-Lauren


Monday, September 14, 2015

Sunday Funday

These days, Sundays rank near the top of my week.  I have really begun to attach myself to the little mission church we are attending and though I don't like setting an alarm for it, I do cherish the specialness of going to that little church with my little family on Sunday mornings.  It's the season where Alex is out of town on many Fridays and Saturdays, so Sunday is our family day (not to say that it shouldn't be year-round).

A little What I Wore Sunday, 'cuz it's been a while.
Using eMeals (more to come on that in a future post) means weekly trips to the grocery story so naturally, when we get out of Mass at 11, it's the perfect time to grab groceries and get back to the house before all the Protestants get out of their 11 a.m. service.  If lunch at a restaurant is on the agenda, we still generally have time to get groceries, drop them off at home, and make it to the restaurant before the church crowd does.  It's really a beautiful thing.

LOVING these maternity capris...I want to wear them year round.
On this particular Sunday, I had been SO looking forward to our date day.  The weather was B-E-A-UTIFUL all weekend and I was dying to get out the house.  After lunch and groceries (in the reverse order, this time), we decided to take in a ULM soccer game; Alex could show his face at another athletic event, and I could spend the afternoon outside.  It was a win-win for everyone.

And it was 59 degrees when we woke up...sweaters allowed!
Alex had the bright idea to bring the dog with us, and boy was that a mistake.  Though six human years old, that dog is an ageless puppy!  He would not chill out!  He was in our face the wholeeee time and really just made the afternoon not nearly as relaxing as it could have been.  Alex said over and over again, "Surely kids are easier than this...right??"  I laughed and said they probably aren't, but at least we wouldn't be covered on dog-funk when it was all said and done (surely kid funk is less disgusting; I am NOT a dog person).

Since maybe you don't want to see only photos of me...
We finally gave up and came home to lock the dog in a little side fence so that we could sit outside in peace for a little bit.  Oh man it was just glorious outside!  Too bad we're under a burn ban - it would have been a nice afternoon for a little fire.  Ah well.

And of course, we topped off the night with another stressful episode of Big Brother!  Less than two weeks to go before the season finale and 3 hours of our week free up again... haha.

So how was your weekend?  Can't wait to catch up on reading what everyone else is up to!

-Lauren

Monday, September 7, 2015

A First (Bumpdate, 16 Weeks)

Bump Update - 9/4/15


I'm still not at all confident in these "bump" photos,
please forgive me.
How far along? 16 weeks

Total weight gain: I choose not to know the answer to this question.  Since my first appointment, I have consistently lost weight according to the doctor's scale, BUT I have been at a different office (re: different scale) every time, so I don't know if that's accurate.  I prefer not to check the scale at home, thank you very much!  Next appointment - 10 days away. 

Maternity clothes? Occasionally, but not usually.  I've worn maternity pants a few times, and I recently purchased a couple of other bottoms but for the most part I am zipping work pants as high as they will go and pretending no one will notice the unbottoned look.  My friend Victoria (due in September) suggested a belly band, which I purchased from Target and occasionally gets used to make for a smoother pants seam. 

Stretch marks? Maybe a few, but who's to say they weren't there before...

Sleep: More, please.  Getting out of bed in the morning (especially now that it's dark!) is a HUUUUGE struggle.  Someone share their secret for fixing this problem and I just might be your new best friend!

Best moment this week: Uhh... I don't know.  Nothing exciting going on over here.  Oh!  I did find out the friend of a friend (who I know through said friend) is due 4ish weeks behind us.  That's exciting enough, yes?

Miss anything? It's not nearly as fun to attend the husband's work events (all you can eat food and booze) when you can't drink.  I planned to make up for it in frozen custard but they ran out before I made it through the line.  *sad face*  If I had friends here, I could really go for a girly wine/movie night...or even sushi with Alex, but nope.

Food cravings: Nope, not a single one.  Apparently I'm really getting gipped on this deal. 

Anything making you queasy or sick?  I'm starting to wonder if I'll ever be able to eat chicken (cooked at home) again.  It's so bizzare for your go-to food to be a no-go anymore.  Strong smells are intense, but I don't think food is really bothering me much these days. 

Gender: Yeah, no.  I should probably delete this question since we aren't finding out (though we could at this next appointment if we wanted to).  

Labor signs: Way too early.

Symptoms: This week I am wondering if I'm dreaming this pregnancy deal.  The bump I thought I had seems a distant memory.  No queasiness, mostly headache free (don't talk to me about the last two weeks)...hating mornings is about as bad as it gets right now.  

Belly button in or out? Normal here too.

Wedding rings on or off: Business as usual.

Happy or moody most of the time: Yeah, I guess you could say things are a little more rocky in this department lately.

Looking forward to: A real bump, feeling the little one move (some people already do by this point??), and really just the next appointment.  

Hows Dad doing? "Dad is doing good....the number of weeks along are starting to creep upward which means before I know it my first born will be here...and I'd be lying if I didn't say it scares the crap out of me."


14 Weeks.
Must have been extra bloated or something.  Ew.
13 Weeks.
Kinda cute, but is that even a real bump?
There you have it folks! Now that we have one of these out of the way, maybe I won't ramble so much in the future.  Side note:  Don't expect these on a weekly basis.  

Have a great holiday weekend, everyone!

Wednesday, September 2, 2015

Fall 2005, Never Forget (Part 2)

For Part 1, click here.

Two days later (Monday, August 29th), Hurricane Katrina plowed into the Gulf Coast, taking with it more than 1,800 lives and billions of dollars worth of infrastructure along the way.  From my house 2.5 hours west of New Orleans, we watched in horror as the news broadcast all that occurred east of us.  We experienced the rain and wind of some of the storm's outer bands, but our power never went out and we were able to keep up with almost all of the news coverage coming out of the area.

The only people we knew directly affected by the storms were more like acquaintances than close family or friends, but our hearts still went to those living the devastation first-hand.  Almost immediately, a "Cajun Navy" of 350+ boats assembled at the Acadiana Mall in Lafayette, pledging to offer volunteer rescue services to those in need (who knew the government would fail at pulling together adequate resources for addressing the situation).  It couldn't have been more then a day or two before buses started rolling in to local arenas, community centers, and nearly any facility that wouldn't have it's daily functions interrupted by hundreds or thousands of new guests (aka: evacuees).

Hundreds of boats assembled at the mall at 4 a.m. That, my friends, is dedication.
The campus of Nicholls itself was spared of major damage, but many, many students were unable to return for more than a week, so the school canceled classes for a week and a half (thanks, Jen, for jogging my memory!).  With the extra time on my hands, I rounded up random craft supplies and games, and spent a few days offering to play with kids who were staying in nearby shelters.  I remember it being an extremely awkward situation to be a teenager showing up in the midst of all the regimented chaos (yes, regimented chaos) and trying to track down someone "in charge" who could give me permission to play with the children.  Most kids who ventured to where I set up shop were shy, timid, and unsure of what I had to offer.  A few though, really enjoyed the distraction, and I could tell their parents appreciated it too.

Though I'd only been a student there for one week, getting back to Nicholls was a strange experience.  For starters, there were hundreds of new people calling campus home - both students and general evacuees.  Like at home, the campus had opened up both of its gyms to house evacuees from the New Orleans area, and the nursing building was transformed into a triage/hospital of sorts.  Many of our classes were relocated to account for new people and the accompanying business functions (communication headquarters, distribution of food/clothing, reunification efforts, applying for aid, etc).

source
Jen and I were forced to move out of that "new" dorm room of ours (we never once actually stayed in that room, btw), back onto the first floor hotel-style part of the building, to make room for students from other schools who hoped to avoid missing an entire semester of coursework (NOLA area schools cancelled classes for the entire semester).  All of a sudden, students from Tulane, Loyola, the University of New Orleans, and even some community colleges were now enrolled in classes.  These students (and even some of the original Nicholls students) didn't have text books or other basic supplies, but our teachers worked around it.  Everyone truly bent over backwards so that these students didn't lose out on their work.

(Note: After Katrina, almost all of our classes migrated to using online systems and students were instructed at the start of each semester that classes would continue via distance should anything occur that prevented the school from providing in-person instruction.  There were clauses added to syllabi that told students they were obligated to take texts and other materials along should the need to evacuate become essential.  I attribute the spike in online classes and related technology to the effects of this situation.)

Speaking of students from other schools, Jen's then-boyfriend-now-husband was one of those affected.  Logan had just begun his first semester at UNO and found himself at Nicholls after the storm.  We enjoyed having Logan around for the semester, but his heart was at UNO and he returned to school there when classes resumed there in the Spring (2006).

Don't hate me, ya'll!
Overall, the vibe on campus that semester was really a unique one.  Students were encouraged to wear (bring) their student IDs with them at all times, and administration recommended students not travel on foot after dark as added safety precautions.  But, for a quiet little campus such as ours, having all those extra people meant there were always others around.  Faculty and students in the Communications Department assembled two news publications (here and here) for evacuees, and the local community banded together to provide for all their needs, including the coordination of regular recreational opportunities such as sports tournaments and outdoor picnics.  In some ways and was annoying to have the disruption (as I imagine many selfish college students would feel), and in other ways remarkably encouraging to have witnessed the incredible sacrifice of those who bound together to serve those in true crisis.

Of course, time went on, we finished the Fall semester and continued with our college experience.  Slowly, people were reunited with family, and students returned to their original schools.  We all moved past those months and continued to find both struggles and successes over the years.  Today, though, we remember those experiences and how they defined a part of our lives, a part that we will never forget.

-Lauren

For added reading on Katrina effects in the Houma/Thibodaux area:
Killer Dog Cheers up Katrina Evacuees at Nicholls
Pushed to the Limits
Katrina Taught Houma-Thibodaux Something About Itself

Monday, August 31, 2015

Fall 2005, Never Forget (Part 1)

I'll be the first to admit that my memory isn't the greatest, especially with details and when time is involved.  But, Fall 2005 is a semester I will never forget.  The year 2005 in general was a pretty big one for me - I graduated high school, enjoyed a super fun celebratory cruise with my family and two good friends, and as most high school graduates do...I started college.  That last part, the starting college part, is the part I will never forget.

For months, my mom and I visited colleges all over the state of Louisiana.  Just when we thought we'd found the perfect place, I decided to check out one last school, mostly because the school required all scholarship recipients to attend a day-long event on campus in order to learn the value of the scholarship they received.  It was one of those, "Well, we may as well," type of things, expecting no big "wow factor" in return.  As it turns out, wow-factor indeed.  Not only did this school offer me the largest scholarship of any other, everything I saw/experienced there shouted "this is the place," and my mom and I just knew in our hearts on the drive home that day, Nicholls State University was the place for me.


Fast forward a few months, that first week of school was a little rocky.  I expected to know no one going into the semester, but just before school started one of my best friends from home decided to attend Nicholls too!  The issue?  He was a guy, so we couldn't room together on campus.  Somehow, I'd been assigned to share a room with a Junior who already had her friend group very well established (they shared a suite with us, actually), and was also practically engaged to her boyfriend.  Awkward, much?

Social media wasn't a "thing" in 2005, so this is the only photo I could find from that semester.
Of course, I'm second from the right, and Jen is on the far right of this photo.
As the first week came to a close, I asked around about switching rooms, and whether there was anyone (a freshman) willing to share with me.  An acquaintance offered one of her friends, and though I had never met the girl (we're still great friends, 10 years later, by the way!), I figured anything was better than the current situation, so I agreed to make the switch.  The one catch was that we'd have to move out of our first floor hotel-style (indoor access) rooms across the building to a second floor motel-style (outdoor access) room that was much more dated.  It was also Friday, by that point, and we both planned to leave campus for the weekend.  We went with it, however, and scrambled to haul all our stuff across the building, setting up only the bare minimums before we peeled out for the weekend.

We changed our room arrangement nearly every semester, so I couldn't tell you which version this was!
I didn't go too far, however.  My parents met me at a campground about mid-way between our house and the school, with plans for my mom and I to do some shopping and setting up the dorm room while my dad and brother spent the day fishing on the lake.  As my mom and I navigated the Walmart (on Saturday, August 27th) aisles looking for the perfect "homey" finishes to our now cold, grimy room, we started to notice something a little unusual.  As typical for a Saturday, Walmart was packed that day...but people weren't buying just anything.  Shopping carts were filled with supplies - water, bread, batteries, generators.  What was going on???

At about the same time we noticed something was awry, my dad called and said that we really might want to consider heading home that afternoon instead of the following day (Sunday) as planned.  He said he kept hearing that there was a storm headed toward Louisiana and it didn't sound good.  At the time, the "cone of uncertainty" included all of Louisiana and he would feel much more comfortable if we could get home to prep the house in case it took a turn more for the west.  And, in the event that evacuations were ordered, my parents definitely didn't want to be on the road in all of that traffic.

At that point, I don't think I'd even heard there was a storm in the gulf, much less one headed our way.  I guess that fresh-college life had kept me out of the loop on those things (and remember, this was before social media was a thing).  We had so many questions - is there time to take our purchases and go set up the dorm?  Do I stay at school when my parents leave town?  Do I go home with my parents?  Will we even have school on Monday?

Without really knowing what to expect, my parents decided it would be best for me to go ahead and come home with them, following in my car so I could get back to school when necessary.  We just all figured it was better to be safe than sorry, and professors would understand if I missed class out of extreme caution.  I packed a few things, and figured I'd be back on campus in no time.

Magnet letters totally became our thing, right, Jen?
Little did I know, my world was about to change.  (To be continued...)

-Lauren

Monday, August 24, 2015

Brooks, Garth Brooks

I know, we're all terrible at posting during the summer.  I just joined the party like everyone else, right?  Yeah, we'll go with that.

About a month ago, Alex and I went to New Orleans for the weekend.  As a longtime fan of Garth (and upon the recommendation from Kara), we scored tickets to his first concert in Louisiana in EIGHTEEN YEARS.  Well, I guess technically it wasn't his first concert because he ended up doing four concerts in the span of three days, but you get the idea.

Everyone and their mama that lives in the Gulf Region was in NOLA that weekend for those concerts.  In fact, originally Alex missed out on tickets for the Saturday night show, but a few minutes after they sold out, a second (late) show was added, so that's what we got.  As it turned out, a friend of mine got early show tickets before the late show was an option, and wanted late ones instead, so we agreed to swap.  It was really a much better fit for both groups, honestly.

We both worked on Friday morning and then began the nearly 5 hour drive south early that afternoon, rolling into the hotel parking lot right at dinnertime. Typically, we do not "do" hotel restaurants but thanks to Alex's dad (somehow) we were considered reward members which included 25% off the menu.  I was feeling pretty "hangry" (exhausted, hungry, cranky) at that point, so we took advantage of the offer and then settled in for an early night.  Heck - we don't have a TV in our bedroom so watching TV in bed at hotels is always an attractive idea for us.

Saturday, I was feeling less than energetic and not at all interested in navigating the city (really, NOLA is just a big navigation headache), we decided to have brunch at a little hole in the wall cafe across the street from the hotel.  Tic Toc Cafe was totally adorable and really hit the spot for exactly what our bellies needed. It was also really awesome to see the staff recognize all the locals, calling them by name and remembering their "regular" orders.

 

Again not wanting to stray, I sat by the pool as Alex cooled off there for a while in the afternoon.  My friend met us to exchange the tickets and then we got ourselves together and were on our way.

Our awesome friend, Cam, told us about this super nifty app/website called ParkMe which finds parking spots near certain locations, allows you to "book" a spot, pay beforehand, print the ticket and have a guaranteed spot available waiting for you upon arrival.  Given the nature of two Garth Brooks concerts in Downtown New Orleans, we loved the idea of having a guaranteed spot to park, so we gobbled that one up.  It made life sooo much easier once we got down there.  And while our plans to kill time eating dinner at Walk-On's (re: thousands of other people had the same idea), we happened upon a trendy little pizza joint called Blaze that I would totally go for if I encountered another location sometime in the future.

Admittance to the concert and finding our eats was easy-peasy, but I almost had a heart attack when we found our seats.  I knew we were sitting in the third level but I didn't realize how huge and high that stadium was!  My anxiety really picked up and I wasn't sure I'd make it through the concert.  Alex asked a nice looking older couple a few rows lower than us if they would switch but they didn't go for it so I had to suck it up.

 


Garth was amazing (of course) - and Tricia Yearwood too - but I can't help but think I would have enjoyed the concert tons more if we had been in a smaller arena or sitting lower.  I did hear he recently added some shows in Little Rock this December so maybe we'll look into trying again.  Or not.  It is what it is.


Sunday morning we knocked out 9 a.m. Mass and then hit the road headed north all over again, with plans to attend a work event (free food/booze) for Alex later that night.  All in all, we enjoyed our little getaway, but I'm glad it's over and the craziness of summer travel is drawing to a close.  I'm pretty ready for regular schedules and a little less chaos in my life.

Hope all is well with you!

- Lauren

Saturday, August 15, 2015

Follow Up to the Fun

Hey there.  You all are amazing, I just want to say that.  The response to my previous post was overwhelming!  So many kind words were shared and I just want you to know I appreciate the gesture SO much.  Also, it's worth noting that was my most viewed post ever!!  Again, THANKS.

I did receive a few requests for some kind of follow up, so I'll backtrack a little and bring us forward to present too.  At some point, I will try to share our TTC story, but I have really struggled with finding the words, so I won't make any promises right now.

First, how did I keep the news a secret from my husband?  Well, it was only two days, and I did have a friend or two available to entertain my "IS THIS FOR REAL" and "AM I DREAMING THIS" moments.  At one point I decided I better buy another test because surely it wasn't a good idea to trust the results of just one test.  Thank goodness two pink lines appeared almost immediately that time.  No third guessing there.

Sorry if you're one of those people who don't like test pictures. 
Alex, was however, a bit on the suspicious side (because: NFP) but I was mostly able to avoid any blatant questions/lies in the short time before orchestrating the reveal.  He was most suspicious about the sudden/random urgency to drive 2 hours for a "photo shoot" at the last minute.  Waiting until the end of the photo shoot to actually share the news really helped because he'd given up hope that something was fishing was going on by that point.  #winning

We had our first doctor appointment at around 6.5 weeks, or that's what the baby measured then anyway.  The doctor's original calculations would have put me closer to 7 or 8 weeks, but my calculations were spot on from the measurements (again: NFP).  I couldn't believe me eyes when we saw the little heart flutter on the screen for the first time.  It was the coolest thing ever!


Three weeks later, we got a second set of pictures via internal ultrasound and that time we got to hear the actual heartbeat.  We were even able to take home this super adorable little photo series where the blob-looking image had evolved into something that actually had a head, torso, and four limbs.  The photo was incredibly clear and we started referring to it as our gummy bear (see the resemblance?).


Also, the photos served more than just as a means to reveal the news to Alex.  We used them to reveal the news to our parents too!  Using the same "practice photo shoot" story, we told our parents we had some semi-professional photos we wanted to share with them.  Each time, we would start with general couple-like photos and then click through to one with the "We're having a baby" sign and pause, waiting for them to get it.  They didn't get it immediately but once it registered in their brains, the cheering began.  We'd then proceed through the series of photos, explaining the reveal and letting them get a kick out of Alex's response . It was great.

Now, we're past the 13 week mark and the photos were used to create an announcement card that was sent to family and friends, then shared on social media.  For your viewing pleasure, I present:
As for how I'm feeling, I think some days are better than others.  I don't think I'm entirely past the queasy, fatigue stage, and recently the headaches have started.  People tell me that's normal, and I really hope it is because if I give myself too much time to think about it, I start imaging the adenoma on my pituitary growing out of control since I'm no longer taking medicine to prevent it from doing so.  (Prayers, maybe?) Aaand...I MIGHT be starting to develop a bump (probably not.), but my pants are definitely feeling tighter and so my search for maternity-comfort has begun.  At the very least, I may be living in flowy dresses for my work conference next week.

Don't look for a bump here - this was taken in early July.
In any case, this post is getting super long so I'll stop there.  Next time we'll switch gears as I share about our weekend in New Orleans for the Garth Brooks concert last month.  ...Can't let the blog become everything baby, now can we?

;)

-Lauren

P.S.  I know for some this type of post can be uncomfortable, difficult, or just plain painful.  Please know that we recognize this and pray for those of you who may struggle with infertility (any variation thereof) and/or infant loss.  Our hearts go out to families affected by these struggles each and every day.